Understanding Does NOT Cause Change

No matter how you slice it, think about it, talk about it or feel about it, the reality is that what you DON'T need in order to be more confident is some 'new understanding'.

I can tell you until I'm blue in the face that you have absolutely NO reason to have fear of rejection around women - and, you'd likely agree with me - "David, you're right - I already know my fear is totally irrational, but when I see a woman I want to meet I freeze up...".

The problem is a gut-level reaction. Understandings exist in your head. When you feel a gut-level fear-reaction, that will override anything your head says. Have you ever just approached a woman even though you felt intense shyness or fear of rejection?- if you have, then you probably just grit your teeth, and did it - but it was difficult, right?

Understanding will never cause that gut-level fear response to change.