Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

I have to emphasize that last step; it's vital that you set your goal clear in your mind. If you're not clear, go back and read yesterday's post.

Now, with your goal clear in mind, you're going to do what every star MMA fighter, baseball player, basketball star, hockey player, etc. does to be a star: they mentally prepare. In fact, this is something that star athletes have been doing for years: visualizing exactly what they will do, and visualizing themselves as successful. This is called "mental rehearsal".

So your next step, just so you're 100% clear, is to take your goal, and visualize yourself doing it successfully. using mental rehearsal. Do Not allow yourself to see yourself as nervous, not confident, anxious or anything other than completely calm, cool, collected and confident.

Run a movie in your mind over and over of you showing up confident, interacting with her confident, ending the coffee date confident - total confidence all the way through from beginning to end. Rehearse it until that movie plays almost automatically.

Next step tomorrow, see you then.
David