Meeting Dating and Seducing Women - and Bruce Lee?

Meeting Dating and Seducing Women - and Bruce Lee?

When Bruce Lee said "be like water, my friend" he was talking about how water can adapt itself to any condition or circumstance.

He was also talking about how water can be gentle and calm, or swift and powerful.

Bruce suggested that a martial artist take on those flexible qualities. He was against the idea of rigid technique-bound approaches.

But the irony is that all martial artists - and most men who want to be able to easily approach, meet, date, and seduce women especially highly-intimidating very beautiful women) with true super confidence - will at least at first spend a lot of time learning technique.

Contradiction? Not necessarily - but it's a thin line between using technique as a security blanket and cover for lack of confidence, and proper use of technique in the right place and time.

What are your thoughts? Post them right here on this blog, anonymously if you want.

See you tomorrow,
David

The Seduction Technique of NO Technique

The Seduction Technique of NO Technique:

Famous Martial Artist Bruce Lee invented his own style of combat called "Jeet Koon Do.

While his art form was a conglomeration, integration and synthesis of many martial art styles, he called his system the "no-style" system. He also referred to it as "the technique of no technique".

Bruce Lee felt that, in his experience, technique limited the fighter. Technique meant that the fighter was constrained to a 'box' and that he (Bruce or the Jeet Koon Do practitioner) would be able to defeat that "technique fighter" because the Jeet Koon Do fighter is free to flow through and around the limited range of techniques of other fighting styles. For example, a boxer doesn't use kicks, so a fighter incorporating kicks has a wider range of choice in a fight.

Bruce Lee used to say "be like water, my friend" - which is to say, water can take the shape of any container. It can be still and quiet, or crash against rocks and wear them down.

When it comes to techniques to meet, date and seduce women, take a tip from Bruce Lee: "be like water, my friend"!

See you tomorrow,
David

Your "Techniques" for Meeting, Dating and Seducing Women:

Your "Techniques" for Meeting, Dating and Seducing Women:

Please be clear and understand that I'm not opposed to "technique" when it comes to meeting and approaching women, or seducing them or dating them.

What I am opposed to is technique as a cover (or "security blanket") to mask insecurity and lack of confidence.

There's an old Chinese saying I'm paraphrasing here: "The wrong man with the right technique will always fail, but the right man with the wrong technique will always succeed".

It's just not about technique. I know, I know - that may burst some people's bubbles, but it had to be said. It's just not about technique!

It's all about you!

See you tomorrow,
David

Is There Too Much Focus On "Technique"?

Is There Too Much Focus On "Technique"?

When it comes to meeting, dating and seducing beautiful women (or heck, any woman for that matter...) do you think there's too much emphasis on "technique"?

We guys like techniques, we want to know a procedure to do things. Most things like fixing a car or doing home repairs involve diagnosing the problem, then taking steps to correct the problem.

But don't we guys tend to take the same approach toward meeting and seduction? Don't we tend to think that there must be a "method" to "getting the job done"?

A good question is does that even make sense - or are we barking up the wrong tree? Is "technique" really a cover for a lack of confidence and a feeling of being unsure?

What do you think?

See you tomorrow,
David

Beautiful Women, Seduction, and the "Ultimate Technique"

Beautiful Women, Seduction, and the "Ultimate Technique"

We guys love the idea of having a technique we can use to get what we want.

Speaking of what we want, a lot of us guys are after sex. No big surprise there. It's just part of the biology and chemistry of being a male, we're typically a pretty horny bunch.

Now, I'm a big fan of getting results without a lot of extra effort and fuss. You? When it comes to getting laid, there are as many approaches to that as there are horny guys - and there's a lot of horny guys out there who want to close the deal with some beautiful, desirable woman (or women).

This blog is a place for the exchange of ideas. Feel free to post what has worked for you. We'll all benefit from your posts.

See you tomorrow,
David

Meeting and Dating Beautiful Women The Easy Way

Meeting and Dating Beautiful Women The Easy Way:

Been to any shopping malls lately? 'Tis the season for full parking lots, eh? Use this to your advantage!

One of the most overlooked places to meet women is in the women's section of department stores. Don't take my word for it, and don't listen to what anyone else says about this. Go find out for yourself, and you'll see what I mean.

Women are all over the place shopping right now, and you have the perfect excuse to approach her right there in the women's department. I know, I know - you're worried about what she'll think about you being out of the men's dept., but it does not matter - you might be shopping for your mom, or your sister, or your aunt, right?

So, get out there and start "shopping"!

See you tomorrow.
David

Seduction, Beautiful Women, and a Security Blanket

Seduction, Beautiful Women, and a Security Blanket:

It is nice to have a crutch - drink some alcohol and lose your inhibitions, or learn some great pick up lines, or have a wingman - all so you can be comfortable and confident in picking up women, meeting women, asking for a date, getting a telephone number, working on seducing a woman to bed - whatever you're trying to accomplish.

But take the crutch away, and you're left with - what? What are you left with?

At the end of the day, crutches are just that, but what if you're out there, see a beautiful woman you want to meet / date / seduce / whatever, and you don't have your wingman, pick up lines, or a bottle of alcohol handy?

What do you do then?

See you tomorrow.
David

Seducing Beautiful Women With a Security Blanket

Seducing Beautiful Women With a Security Blanket:

Imagine that you're out there somewhere - you're in a pub, in the market, or wherever - and you see an attractive woman you'd like to meet, date, seduce, whatever it is that you want.

Imagine that you walk up to her, holding... a security blanket up to your face! It's a nice pink or blue color, very soft, and it's the one you used to use when you were a small child as your security blanket.

Now, some women might find it funny, cute, or endearing. But there you are with your security blanket, actually looking pretty foolish. Do you realize that all the pickup lines and seduction techniques you think you need are nothing more than a security blanket?

Deep down, you know I'm right. Sure, one or two of you out there don't use it as a security blanket and would still approach women without needing to rely on "techniques" - but the rest of you, and you know who you are, are approaching women with a security blanket! Grow up!

See you tomorrow,
David

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving!

I want to wish you and yours a safe and healthy (and fun!) Holiday!

Sincerely,

David

Part VI: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Part VI: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

If you're golfing, bowling, or doing Judo, technique is going to be a key component to your success.

However - meeting, dating, and seducing beautiful women - or any women - is less about technique and more about attitude. Heck, it's all about your attitude!

You could have the most magical *technique* in the world, the best pick up line ever invented, and can completely blow it because of your attitude, lack of confidence, or your obvious nervousness. It's really just that simple. Guys with zero *technique* but attitude a mile wide and confidence to the end of time attract women like bees to honey!

So as you evaluate how your meeting went, don't focus on the "what". It's not about technique. Evaluate your attitude only.

See you tomorrow, unless you're napping from too much Thanksgiving eating!
David

Part V: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Part V: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

After you've gone on your coffee meeting, you need to evaluate how well you hit your target of exuding super confidence when you were with her.

Important: this is not a "beat yourself up session!" You're going to have to take a step back from yourself and be an objective reporter about how things went.

Making an honest assessment means that you'll be able to identify where things went the way you planned and why, and where things did NOT go according to plan and why.

Take some time to set back with a drink, and with paper and pen, and write down all your objective reporting.

Do that, and then I'll see you tomorrow!
David

Part IV: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Part IV: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

When you go on your coffee meeting (notice I don't call it a date: this is not a date, this is nothing more than a meeting where you have a specific agenda) the hardest thing will be for you to maintain your focus.

You have to avoid the temptation to get lost in your usual way of behaving on "a date". Remember, this is not a date. Forget about trying to impress her, or trying to be entertaining, or trying to be anything. Your sole mission is simply to exude confidence, and that's it.

You may need to use my "hero process" which we've talked about before and which I've outlined in detail in my book "Super Confidence With Women". If you have "issues" that need clearing up, then you really should get that book.

But you don't need the book to do this coffee meeting, you just need to sit there and exude confidence. Consider this as the most unimportant meeting of your life, nothing here matters except focusing on exuding confidence. All other considerations just do not matter.

See you tomorrow!
David

Part III: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Part III: Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

So far you've joined some free dating websites, lined up a "safe" coffee meeting, and you've been doing your mental rehearsal.

Next step is execution: go on the date. But, the entire time, you must stay focused on your goal of exuding confidence. Just like you rehearsed it (mentally) you want to sit in a confident way. Make your face confident. Even your gestures are confident. Certainly your voice and the way you speak is confident.

Don't worry about conversation. Seriously. "What should I say??" is not part of this. The only, only thing that should be a constant is your focus on being confident and exuding confidence. Don't get sidetracked, this is your only focus for this meeting.

Now, go meet her.

See you tomorrow!
David

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

I have to emphasize that last step; it's vital that you set your goal clear in your mind. If you're not clear, go back and read yesterday's post.

Now, with your goal clear in mind, you're going to do what every star MMA fighter, baseball player, basketball star, hockey player, etc. does to be a star: they mentally prepare. In fact, this is something that star athletes have been doing for years: visualizing exactly what they will do, and visualizing themselves as successful. This is called "mental rehearsal".

So your next step, just so you're 100% clear, is to take your goal, and visualize yourself doing it successfully. using mental rehearsal. Do Not allow yourself to see yourself as nervous, not confident, anxious or anything other than completely calm, cool, collected and confident.

Run a movie in your mind over and over of you showing up confident, interacting with her confident, ending the coffee date confident - total confidence all the way through from beginning to end. Rehearse it until that movie plays almost automatically.

Next step tomorrow, see you then.
David

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women: Part II

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women: Part II

So far you've joined up with several free dating websites, and you reply to some local ladies you don't find wildly attractive. You've invited them to meet you in a safe, low risk public place like a coffee shop.

Now for step II:

Set in your mind that your goal for this meeting is not nice conversation, not trying to impress her, not trying to make her laugh - your only goal, is to be there and exude confidence. Whatever else happens is completely secondary - you must hold your goal in mind the entire time.

Now, you may succeed wildly, or you may not, but either way you're going to get a lot out of this experience, which we'll talk more about tomorrow.

See you then!
David

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Here's a quick and easy (and free!) way to help you to "tune up your confidence guitar strings".

Step 1:

Join a few of those online dating websites. Join the free ones, or get a 30 or 90 day free trial. Reply to some women's profiles who are local - pick women you do not find particularly attractive, but are not necessarily repulsive either.

Send emails to all of them that references something about their profile, that way you don't look like you're sending a copy-and-paste mass email. Ask them to meet you at a local coffee shop after work or during the day on a weekend, just to have some conversation and a few laughs.

Tune in tomorrow for Step 2 - see you then!
David

Getting The Attention Of The Woman You Want To Approach:

Getting The Attention Of The Woman You Want To Approach:

You don't exist. No, this is not an existential statement - what I'm saying is that the beautiful woman you want to meet or date or seduce or have a relationship with or just have coffee with does not know you exist. You are not on her radar screen.

You are going to have to make your existence known to her. How you do that is up to you, but there's 2 main ways:

1. The Indirect Approach:
This is where you exchange furtive glances at each other in a bar or a supermarket or a bookstore, or wherever you see her. Or if you're a kid, you tell your friends that you like her so that your friends will tell her friends and her friends will tell her. The indirect approach has it's merits, but frankly is the cowards way out.

2. The Direct Approach:
You get on her radar screen by walking up and opening your mouth and saying something to her. You ask her a questions, or you make a comment like giving a compliment of some sort, you just say "hi my name is ___". The direct approach offers instant gratification as you get a yea or nay right away, but it's the riskier method since you may get rejected.

Do you have an opinion about either of these approaches? Feel free to post them right here on my blog www.confidencenow.com/blog.

See you tomorrow,
David

Confidence Forever - the Magic Bullet:

Confidence Forever - the Magic Bullet:

Since confidence is not a thing, but is more like guitar strings, then can we just find a magic bullet to solve our confidence problem forever?

Most of us guys seem to think so. We imagine that we'll cross a "finish line" into the land of permanent confidence. We see ourselves approaching women anytime we want. We see ourselves with suave seduction ability. We see ourselves surrounded with beautiful women because now we've crossed the finish line and live in permanent confidence land.

Is this what you think? Is this what you want? What's your opinion?

See you tomorrow!
David

Dating, Seduction, Beautiful Women, Super Confidence... and Guitar Strings??

Dating, Seduction, Beautiful Women, Super Confidence... and Guitar Strings??

There is no such thing as confidence. That is, confidence is not a thing we can pass around like we can pass around a bottle of tequila. Of course, a lot of guys do use alcohol as their confidence crutch. But overall you're better off if you can develop your super confidence with women without alcohol.

Why? Simple - because you might not be drunk every time you see a woman you want to approach! For example, when I'm in my favorite supermarket filled with beautiful women I want to meet and seduce, I'm not drunk at the time.

Anyway, confidence is like a guitar string. Now, maybe you don't play guitar, but if you ever have played a guitar or seen someone play, you know that guitar strings go out of tune and have to be tuned up, right? You don't just tune them once and they're tuned forever, true?

Super confidence with women is a lot like guitar strings - you've got to tune 'em up!

More tomorrow, see you then.
David

What Stops Us From Approaching Women With Confidence?

What Stops Us From Approaching Women With Confidence?

As we continue our exploration into approaching and meeting women - certainly we must do this prior to dating or seducing, right? - we're turning over rocks to expose the slimy, creepy, crawly stuff that stops us, makes us uncomfortable, creates fear and hesitation.

To help with this, I'll tell you a little about what used to stop me. I'd be out somewhere, let's say my favorite grocery store (it's my favorite because for reasons I have not been able to figure out, this one particular store is always, I mean always brimming with exactly "my type"!) and I see some beautiful woman I'd like to meet.

What used to happen for me - maybe this happens to you too - is I'd stop and have a conversation with myself. And one of the main things I'd say to myself is "what about all the other people around that are going to hear me when I go up to her and approach her?-I don't want to be embarrassed, humiliated, etc.

I'll continue with more tomorrow, see you then!
David

The Ugly Truth: What the PUA and Seduction "Gurus" Hope You Never Find Out: Part II

The Ugly Truth: What the PUA and Seduction "Gurus" Hope You Never Find Out: Part II

Yesterday I said I was going to pull back the curtain on the so-called gurus of seduction. I said I was going to expose the big lie that they and the PUA 'community' are propagating. I said I would reveal exactly, precisely, specifically how they are lying to you about what it takes to meet, date, and seduce women - especially beautiful women.

Last night I was talking with a good friend who is also an influence expert, and he's telling me I should not expose the BS lies that the 'get girls with hypnosis' people, pua's, seduction suckers - I mean experts! - are telling you.

My friend says that you don't want to hear the truth. That you won't be able to accept it. He said, moreover, that you know you're being lied to, and like it! He said that I would end up being the bad guy - by exposing the bad guys who are lying to you!

He said that exposing these people - like telling a kid there is no Santa Claus - is mean, cruel, and self-serving. I respect my friend's opinion highly, so I'm going to think about it some more and decide if he's right, or if I should just go ahead and expose the lies you're being told.

What do you think I should do?

See you tomorrow,
David

The Ugly Truth: What the PUA and Seduction "Gurus" Hope You Never Find Out:

The Ugly Truth: What the PUA and Seduction "Gurus" Hope You Never Find Out:

I'm going to tell it like it is, but you're not going to like it. You're going to stop reading my blog because of this. Why? Because I'm about to expose the fact that the "emperor has no clothes".

You sure you're ready for this? You can stop reading now, and keep your fantasy world intact - keep reading, and you're about to have a seriously large bubble burst:

When it comes to dating beautiful women, seduction and seducing, and being able to approach and meet women, the PUA's and the "gurus" of seduction, and even the "hypnosis and mind control" people are propagating a giant lie.

In fact, as I write this, I've just now decided that I want to give you an extra day to decide if you want to keep your illusions intact, because this is like finding out that Santa Claus doesn't exist. This could send you into a serious bout of denial and depression.

So if you'd rather just keep going along believing a giant lie, I feel it's my duty to give you that opportunity - so do not tune in tomorrow if that's the case.

If you're ready to face the ugly truth, I'll see the rest of you all tomorrow.
David
PS: This is not hype, please take what I'm saying seriously.

Can You Handle The Ugly Truth About Dating, Seduction, and Approaching Beautiful Women?

Can You Handle The Ugly Truth About Dating, Seduction, and Approaching Beautiful Women?

Last night I was talking with a colleague of mine. Like me, he's an expert on influence and persuasion. He made a comment that you'll find shocking and it's something I've been saying all along (for example, I'm on record in my book "Super Confidence With Women" as having said this repeatedly).

It's an ugly truth you may not be ready for because when it comes to meeting, approaching and dating beautiful women - and seducing women and seduction in general - you are being LIED to out there. Do you want to know what that ugly lie is?

I'm 100% aware of the "community" of PUA's (*pick up artists*), the seduction technology people, the get women with hypnosis people - you get the picture - there are a lot of people who want to help you *solve your problem*, and they are responsible for propagating a complete lie.

Do you want to know exactly what they're telling you that is a complete lie?

I'll tell you tomorrow, but you're probably not ready for this! Tune in tomorrow only if you think you can handle the ugly truth!
David

Dating, Seduction, Beautiful Women... and Grandpa Simpson??

Dating, Seduction, Beautiful Women... and Grandpa Simpson??

How does Grandpa Simpson figure in to this equation? Or even that sentence??

There's an episode of The Simpsons where Grandpa Simpson becomes smitten with a new resident at the retirement home. He wants to ask her out, and when he gets his chance, he bumbles and mumbles trying to ask her out. After a few botched lines he mutters to himself, "This just never gets any easier, does it?!!"

As in much of the humor on that smash-hit show, there is an underlying truth: most guys never get over that nervousness, hesitation, awkwardness and fear. Can you imagine being, like, 70 years old and you've never gotten over that? And hey, sorry to hit you with this, but when you're 70 you had better be pretty darn rich if you expect to land any young beautiful women!

So with all that in mind, are you now going to start taking this seriously? Taking what seriously, you ask? Taking seriously what I've been harping on almost all last week - you have GOT to get out there, approach a few women, and be painfully aware of all the fear triggers you have.

More importantly, you have got to uncover exactly what form those fear triggers take - what do you say to yourself, picture in your head before you feel that fear feeling? You will never develop the ability to have confidence around women otherwise, and no amount of pick up artist techniques or seduction science is going to make the difference - just ask Grandpa Simpson!

See you tomorrow,
David

Becoming Bulletproof: Everlasting Confidence, Cont'd

Becoming Bulletproof: Everlasting Confidence, Cont'd:

In the last couple of days, I've had you out approaching women so you can notice what your "fear triggers" are. Your fear triggers are whatever comes up for you that stops you.

In order to be comfortable enough to meet a woman, ask for a date, get her phone number, or try to seduce her, you have to deal with those fear triggers and eliminate them one by one. In my book "Super Confidence With Women" and my more advanced audio program "How to Approach Any Woman With Complete Confidence" I walk you step-by-step through how exactly to destroy your fear triggers.

Approaching, meeting, dating, seduction - all of that becomes quite easy once you eliminate those fear triggers.

So before we start to destroy your fear triggers, be sure you have all of them: go out again today somewhere you'll see women that you'd like to meet, and go ahead and approach one. You'll hesitate and stall. Notice exactly what's happening as you hesitate and stall. This is the crucial first step to destroying your fear triggers.

Let's get together tomorrow and keep moving forward, see you then.
David

Everlasting Confidence, Cont'd:

Everlasting Confidence, Cont'd:

Almost all straight single guys want to have the confidence to approach, meet, date, and seduce women. The mistake most guys make, is they think the answer lies in some kind of pick-up techniques. But pickup techniques and so-called pickup artist or PUA's are missing the point. It's all about what's in your head and gut.

Why? Because your appeal to women has less to do with being slick and entertaining than just exuding pure confidence. Confidence puts women at ease. Your nervousness is not putting women at ease, no matter how slick your pick up lines are. Women can sense that under the surface, something is amiss.

Yesterday, I said you should go out and find a woman to approach, and find out exactly what happens inside of your head. What do you say to yourself? What do you picture? If you haven't yet gone out and done this, do it now. Seriously.

If you've already done it, then you need to write down exactly what you noticed happening. Now, I want you to go out and find another woman to approach, and approach her. Is there consistency in what comes up for you? What exactly is happening that's stopping you?

Awareness is the first step to altering and changing and transforming that gut-level fear response. So, overturn that rock and look closely at what's underneath. It might not be comfortable and it might be scary, but it's time to shine the light of day on what's hiding underneath.

We'll take this a step further tomorrow, see you then.
David

Everlasting Confidence, Part III

Everlasting Confidence, Part III:

As I said yesterday, super confidence with women involves a comprehensive "inside and outside" approach. Today, let's talk about your insides. Of course, I'm not talking about your bones or other anatomical stuff inside your body, I'm talking about what happens in your head.

The gut-level fear reaction you have when you don't approach a woman, actually starts in your head. You're doing something in there. You're communicating to yourself in some specific way. You may not be fully aware of this happening because it may be happening very fast, automatically, below the level of your awareness.

As a start on this, go out somewhere in public you know you'll be able to see some attractive and desirable women. When you see a woman you'd like to meet, observe what happens inside of you. To force the issue, I want you to approach this woman. This is where you're going to uncover all the stuff going on inside - you'll notice that you start to say something to yourself, or pictures and/or movies flash through your mind.

This is the fertile ground of changing that automatic fear "no" response into something more useful, for example, super confidence with women.

Let's get more into your inner reactions and what to do about that tomorrow, see you then!
David

Everlasting Confidence, Part III

Everlasting Confidence, Part III

A gut-level response does not involve our head. A gut-level fear response to seeing a woman we want to meet means that there's an instant reaction in our gut that overrides our mind's thoughts. We think in our head "I want to meet her" but our gut screams "DANGER!" so we take no action.

We have to recondition this gut level response. This takes a bit of effort, but it's worth it. It's been my experience and the experience of many guys who've used my book or my audio CD programs that using my "inside/outside" approach is a well-rounded solution. Here's how it works:

"Inside" means you need to basically re-wire your internal responses. "Outside" means you have to have actual experiences in the outside world. By taking a systematic, step by step approach, this can be easily accomplished - you can reach your goal of being able to easily and comfortably meet women, date them, seduce them without any fear or hesitation whatsoever.

Tomorrow I'll talk some specific ways you can do this, and over the next week we'll be discussing various actions you can take to build up your confidence and have what I like to call "Super Confidence With Women".

See you tomorrow!
David