"Super Confidence With Women" Author David Portney Interviewed - Part II

Nirvanos: Now, obviously your main focus is on building confidence, but you do have a ton of tips and excellent knowledge about the actual dating strategies too. What are some of the main mistakes you see guys doing, and more specifically, some of the "wannabe pickup artists"

David Portney:I'm glad you asked that. As I mentioned, pick up and seduction strategies tend to promise "magic bullet solutions", and they over-promise in my opinion. At the same time, I'm not going to say that it's all bad stuff and no one should learn it.

The "danger" to me is when pick up and seduction stuff becomes a security blanket.

It's also not so good if guys get sucked into believing all they have to do is take a pill or deliver a pick up line in a hypnotic voice, and then sit back and get pounced on.

Techniques don't work on every woman every time the same way, and if a guy is using this stuff as a cover for their insecurity and lack of confidence, so what if it does work?-they get the girl, but they're still insecure, still are emotionally conflicted, have negative emotions and beliefs clouding things up.

Hey, guys want sex, and some would argue that whatever it takes to get laid is cool, but at the same time, you have to live with yourself and the consequences of your actions, and you might find yourself in over your head unless you clear up stuff that needs clearing up.

You may get laid, but you may also get much more than you bargained for too.

Nirvanos: So what is your solution? What would you teach guys about improving the dating success? Obviously you concentrate on the most important aspect of all, confidence. And if you get that one, a lot of things come into place… … but obviously, there are still some thing guys could do to further increase the chances. What do you think are the top things guys should know, once they get super confidence?

David Portney:Well, we might have to define "dating success" first, but before we do I will say that I'm a huge fan of deciding what you DON'T want and will NOT put up with women.

Not only does this give you an added layer of confidence, but you also are not coming from a "I wonder if she'll let me get in her pants" "I wonder if I'm good enough" mentality when you are dating.

So what IS dating success?? getting laid? Starting a relationship?

Nirvanos: Sure. That's a great point. Knowing what you want is in itself a boost to confidence, but it will change up what you do as well. Let's go with what most "newbies" in this area do, they set the goal of "I just want to get laid with as many women as possible"

What would you advise to that kind of a person once they do the full "super confidence with women" and get that confidence?

David Portney:If we're talking about getting laid, then stacking the deck in your favor is always a good idea; stir her emotions up with your dating activity (take her to a chick flick, on a roller coaster ride where she'll hang onto you, etc.) and steer the conversation into areas that will create affinity and have her associate states of liking and attraction to you.

Also, like sales in business, it's a numbers game to a certain extent. And… …as for the guy who has the full "super confidence with women" it's up to him where he goes; he could just do the playboy get-laid thing if he wants, or he can go out looking for a relationship, or whatever he wants to do.

There's almost no limit on you as a guy after that because you're in the power position at that point - you're out of the passengers seat, and you're in the driver's seat, you're in control.

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