How to Get Over Shyness

Shyness is a big problem for guys when it comes to meeting, dating and (gulp!) seducing women.

Here's our guide to getting over shyness as quickly and painlessly as possible.

Here's the frame on getting rid of shyness: it's a lot like when you were a child and you were afraid of the dark, or you were afraid that monsters were lurking under your bed.

You'd pull the blankets tight up or even over your head to protect yourself from those unknown dangers "lurking" in the dark.

When you got older, you realized that when you turned the lights off, no monsters suddenly appeared, and there were no monsters hiding in your closet or under your bed after all.

In other words, your fear of the dark and/or monsters was a "manufactured" fear - it was all in your head.

Sure, you FELT the fear in your body - your heart raced, your breathing was rapid, your hair stood on end - but all that was caused by fearful ideas manufactured in your head.

Now, setting aside any biological and/or chemical causes for feelings of shyness, the reality is that shyness is also "manufactured fear".

Your imagination runs wild with all kinds of "what if this happens, what if that happens" scenarios - and those are manufactured. But what factory manufactures those scenarios and fears? - well, it's your brain, of course!

And that's great news for you because that means you can take control of the situation, you can get into the drivers seat and go in a different direction.

It's recommended that to cure your shyness around women, that you slowly desensitize yourself to situations that cause you to feel shyness.

But here's the real key: it's not that repeated, small and safe exposures cause a desensitization - the reality is that you don't become numb or immune through repeated safe exposure, what happens is that you have the direct experience that there is indeed nothing to be afraid of after all.

So it's suggested that you come up with a 30 day plan: think of it like going to the gym to lift weights for the first time in your life... if you were to try to lift the heaviest weight in the gym, that would be dangerous and stupid!

Instead, on day 1 you pick up the lightest weight.

On day 2, a slightly heavier weight. Same on day 3, day 4, and so on.

After 30 days you'd be much stronger than on day 1, right?

You'd be able to lift weights much heavier than you ever dreamed possible.

So sit down and map out a plan - each day for 30 days, "lift a slightly heavier weight" when it comes to overcoming your shyness around women.

Remember: start small and safe, and build up very slowly and safely!

Here's a proven 30 day plan to get over shyness around women: