Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

I have to emphasize that last step; it's vital that you set your goal clear in your mind. If you're not clear, go back and read yesterday's post.

Now, with your goal clear in mind, you're going to do what every star MMA fighter, baseball player, basketball star, hockey player, etc. does to be a star: they mentally prepare. In fact, this is something that star athletes have been doing for years: visualizing exactly what they will do, and visualizing themselves as successful. This is called "mental rehearsal".

So your next step, just so you're 100% clear, is to take your goal, and visualize yourself doing it successfully. using mental rehearsal. Do Not allow yourself to see yourself as nervous, not confident, anxious or anything other than completely calm, cool, collected and confident.

Run a movie in your mind over and over of you showing up confident, interacting with her confident, ending the coffee date confident - total confidence all the way through from beginning to end. Rehearse it until that movie plays almost automatically.

Next step tomorrow, see you then.
David

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women: Part II

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women: Part II

So far you've joined up with several free dating websites, and you reply to some local ladies you don't find wildly attractive. You've invited them to meet you in a safe, low risk public place like a coffee shop.

Now for step II:

Set in your mind that your goal for this meeting is not nice conversation, not trying to impress her, not trying to make her laugh - your only goal, is to be there and exude confidence. Whatever else happens is completely secondary - you must hold your goal in mind the entire time.

Now, you may succeed wildly, or you may not, but either way you're going to get a lot out of this experience, which we'll talk more about tomorrow.

See you then!
David

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Using Online Dating Websites to Conquer Shyness, Fear of Rejection Around Women:

Here's a quick and easy (and free!) way to help you to "tune up your confidence guitar strings".

Step 1:

Join a few of those online dating websites. Join the free ones, or get a 30 or 90 day free trial. Reply to some women's profiles who are local - pick women you do not find particularly attractive, but are not necessarily repulsive either.

Send emails to all of them that references something about their profile, that way you don't look like you're sending a copy-and-paste mass email. Ask them to meet you at a local coffee shop after work or during the day on a weekend, just to have some conversation and a few laughs.

Tune in tomorrow for Step 2 - see you then!
David